Comments on: ‘Catch Them Doing Right’ and ‘Do This And Get That’ theories debunked! https://vivekvsp.com/2009/09/catch-them-doing-right-and-do-this-and-get-that-theories-debunked/ The Events in Human Resources and Employee Relations space, and in My World through my eyes. Wed, 29 Jun 2016 13:58:57 +0000 hourly 1 By: nsiyer https://vivekvsp.com/2009/09/catch-them-doing-right-and-do-this-and-get-that-theories-debunked/#comment-2618 Tue, 29 Sep 2009 19:30:01 +0000 https://vivekvsp.com/?p=2002#comment-2618 I liked it. I have practised it.But still I do not know whether it is right.How do you measure the outcome?Its quite interesting to research this subject. But if at all, the only outcome I have experienced with my children is that they are independent and take their decisions.

]]> By: Santanu Sinha Chaudhuri https://vivekvsp.com/2009/09/catch-them-doing-right-and-do-this-and-get-that-theories-debunked/#comment-2619 Tue, 29 Sep 2009 11:56:13 +0000 https://vivekvsp.com/?p=2002#comment-2619 Parenting is indeed a much neglected subject. I tend to think that many parents just sleepwalk through this onerous task.

Your post offers much food for thought, and I will try to think about the concepts. There cannot be two opinions that parental love should be unconditional. But I have two basic questions. Please ignore them if they are a product of my ignorance.

1. Should we equate a reward (like a bicycle) with parental love? Would a son necessarily feel unloved if he fails to win the reward? Isn't what a child perceives as parental love (or the lack of it) a fabric woven with many different threads into a complex pattern?

2. How relevant is a result (on this subject) observed in America to our society? In other words, isn't our parent-child relationship somewhat different from theirs?

]]> By: Ugich Konitari https://vivekvsp.com/2009/09/catch-them-doing-right-and-do-this-and-get-that-theories-debunked/#comment-2620 Tue, 29 Sep 2009 11:22:53 +0000 https://vivekvsp.com/?p=2002#comment-2620 The key point everyone agrees on is that parenting is a very very tough thing to do.

Having said that, I think there is a cultural factor you need to factor in here. Parenting, per se, in western countries gives different weightages to things than we do. Things become very illuminating when you observe parenting styles for Indian kids born and brought up abroad. A lot of these studies, would be clearly applicable in those environments.

I have had occasion to look for guidance in certain unusual situations re children , and did look up and consult for expert advice.

Turns out, that everything is a function of the maturity level of your child at a given age. No expert can tell you what will work. And you end up finding out what works best, when you try and think back to your own childhood…

]]> By: Amit https://vivekvsp.com/2009/09/catch-them-doing-right-and-do-this-and-get-that-theories-debunked/#comment-2621 Tue, 29 Sep 2009 07:27:30 +0000 https://vivekvsp.com/?p=2002#comment-2621 That was a very deep, meaningful blog…and it is true that parenting being so deceptive, making the "right" choices becomes even more difficult…Keep writing such good blogs!

]]> By: manju https://vivekvsp.com/2009/09/catch-them-doing-right-and-do-this-and-get-that-theories-debunked/#comment-2622 Tue, 29 Sep 2009 06:05:29 +0000 https://vivekvsp.com/?p=2002#comment-2622 Very interesting! Parenting certainly is a tough job!

As you say- there should be more studies about parenting.

]]> By: Swatantra https://vivekvsp.com/2009/09/catch-them-doing-right-and-do-this-and-get-that-theories-debunked/#comment-2623 Tue, 29 Sep 2009 05:08:22 +0000 https://vivekvsp.com/?p=2002#comment-2623 Very insightful post!!

There are many situation i come across and think how to deal with it.. Parenting is tough, challenging and love..

Thanks for sharing!!

]]> By: Kavi https://vivekvsp.com/2009/09/catch-them-doing-right-and-do-this-and-get-that-theories-debunked/#comment-2624 Tue, 29 Sep 2009 04:20:28 +0000 https://vivekvsp.com/?p=2002#comment-2624 Insightful indeed. It sometimes stumps me as to how well we hold on to beliefs for a long time…ignoring all else that flies in the face !

]]> By: Counter Strike https://vivekvsp.com/2009/09/catch-them-doing-right-and-do-this-and-get-that-theories-debunked/#comment-2625 Mon, 28 Sep 2009 21:06:13 +0000 https://vivekvsp.com/?p=2002#comment-2625 Insightful !
You told us that the real acceptance of 'individuality' comes only after one becomes a parent.This post actually challenges that assumption my head !

Also it seems to me that this can be used to understand if incentives as well as performance pay can drive sustained productivity improvements…

Thanks for the heads up! 🙂

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