Comments on: Love and The Ship of Theseus

By: Naganath Subramanian Iyer

Naganath Subramanian Iyer — Mon, 25 Aug 2025 17:36:53 +0000

Very very true Sir.
In my own experience, I have seen Leaders still looking at people by the impressions that they sighted in the first few years they had worked together.

Such leaders fail to see and recognise the transformation in people and ignore this very talent readily available with them.

Which only shows, these leaders have not transformed.

By: Dr Devendra Bora

Dr Devendra Bora — Mon, 25 Aug 2025 05:00:49 +0000

Very nicely articulated Sir

By: Vikrant Bhuskute

Vikrant Bhuskute — Fri, 22 Aug 2025 13:28:56 +0000

We are all constantly changing. And so is the darling beloved or daughter or parents, friends. And we keep getting to know each other, accept and love each other. Each time challenging and changing self – including for becoming more empathic and open. I am curious where and how soul fits in this picture?

By: Varda Pendse

Varda Pendse — Fri, 22 Aug 2025 11:59:14 +0000

I was reading somewhere….each child born to same parent has had a different childhood experience and memories. Even if they are twins. The parent is a different person to the child.

Similarly people we know change and the relationship evolves….it’s different from when it started off with. We need to be mindful of the same.
In the family…it’s most difficult as a parent to realize that you child is now a matured adult capable of taking his / her decision. Giving freedom and trusting the child is critical for the relationship to stay alive and evolving. Specially in family situations sometimes the relationships get stuck in a time wrap.

However the other reality also is that the relationships you had when you were young / school / child …maybe deeper / stronger as compared to formed in adulthood. My relationships with my school friends is different from friends made in layer years of life.

Again a research I had read that school / college friends help you relax and de stress as compared to your office colleagues / network. Guess there is no ‘ position ” or privelge in the former as compared to later where there are guards.

Thank you for making us think of the different perspectives of relationship and reminding us that it is constantly evolving.

By: Abhijit Pendse

Abhijit Pendse — Fri, 22 Aug 2025 06:59:56 +0000

Insightful post sir. Psychoanalysts have an interesting perspective on Love- They distinguish between
1) Falling in love
2) Falling out of love
3) Remaining in love.
To remain in love one has to go beyond acceptance and digest ambivalence. Otto Kernberg and Salman Akhtar have interesting observations on the topic you have written.

By: Vinu

Vinu — Fri, 22 Aug 2025 06:19:36 +0000

“A question of Identity! That reminds me of a thought experiment – ‘The Ship of Theseus.’ If you replace few parts of the ship, is it the same ship? And if you replace all parts of the ship, is it the same ship?”- As usual a wonderful reminder – of how we love conditionally vs unconditionally. Sir, you have captured the essence of loving with such beautiful examples. This will be a special masterpiece for me to re-visit.

By: Vineet Kaul

Vineet Kaul — Fri, 22 Aug 2025 06:10:42 +0000

Thanks Vivek …yes nothing is permanent, whether in body or mind . The word ‘ Paradox’ is very apt . Our own views and perceptions on the same subject change over the years.
I recall an incident in 1980/81 in Pune . A dynamic IPS Officer took me alongwith him to the Police Ground . He showed me a group of 10-12 recruits inducted into the newly set up ‘anti-goonda squad’ undergoing training. He then informed me that half of them were history sheeters themselves !! Yes, the authorities were taking a novel approach . It exposed me to an Out of Box thinking. I could not come to terms to accept this novel approach.
Yes,have learnt to take contradiction and Paradox in their stride

By: Amit S Kawoor

Amit S Kawoor — Fri, 22 Aug 2025 04:47:48 +0000

New born’s shed skin cells, hair and painfully milk tooth while growing up “physically” the identification tag “NAME” mostly by parents bears 1 life times role…but are we same really innocent, childish, cute the original “@ Birth” or as we say for product “factory setting” !!!